Fruit Season nearly over

Another Fruit Season (my 26th) is nearly over with the door to the Fruit Stall closing probably at the end of May and with my days not being so busy now I have time to get back into my blog.

Remember I guarantee a personal response to Aunty S emails and with permission I will edit and post them, as they are invaluable to others in a similar situation.

Life has many twists and turns and when an issue arises often all that is required is another point of view to sort it out effectively or validation as to how one feels.

I will start posting the edited emails, which I have received during the summer months, as from today as I finally have time to edit.

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Dear Aunty S

Three months ago my lover of three years and I left our partners and started living together but last week he returned to his wife.
My husband doesn’t want me back so I am living at my parents house even though they are not happy with me.
My life is a mess and I don’t know what to do.
I am sure in time I will get back with my lover as he only went back for the kids sake but the waiting is wearing me down.
Any advice?

 

Aunty S responds

So you wanted your husband to take you back whilst you wait for your lover to leave his family again!
Wow that is callous.
I doubt very much your lover will leave his wife again as it appears to me that the thrill and excitement of an affair has been replaced with “what the hell have I done?”
You are in your late thirties my dear, time to grow up.
Over and out.

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Dear Aunty S 

My son went to live with his father after we broke up and now after three months he wants to come home but his father told him if he goes he will wipe him.
My son is angry and sad and has asked his grandparents to pick him up tomorrow and to bring him home.

My husband has had nothing to do with our other children during these past few months as he wiped them when he left to set up home with his girlfriend.
It is only because of her that my son lasted so long with them as she is kind and tried her best to make up for my husbands cold indifference towards him.

He made it clear he only took our son to hurt me, which my son knows nothing about.

I believe my love and the love of all the relatives will pull my kids through this but I do need some advice as to what extra I can do to pull him through the pain of being rejected by his father.

 

Aunty S responds

Just continue loving him to bits my dear.
He is a lucky boy to have such a kind mother – even though your husband left you for another woman you acknowledge her kindness towards your son. Not many women would be so generous.
The absolute golden rule when parents’ part is to put the children first, which is what you have done.
Let your son know he can talk anytime day or night to you, as there will be a lot of hurt that needs to be released.
The interest your son was involved in before going to live with his father is something he needs to get back into as he is surrounded by good male role models.
With your guidance he will come through this rough patch.
You are a wonderful mother.
I am only a click away.

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Below you will see a few summer photos of our garden and Orchard taken by either Sam or me. I was going to post some off and on during summer but time was always against me.

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