Dear Aunty S

My friends dumped me within days of being widowed, a few years ago.

My husband and I had socialized with them for over ten years but apparently I was now a threat as I was single.

This devastated me as I thought they were my friends and I really needed their support as my husband and I were so close and his death devastated me.

But after a year or so I was back on my feet with new friends.

Recently one of these old friends lost her husband and she is getting the same treatment by the group that she dished out to me.

She has written to me asking if we can be friends again.

What do I do as I feel for her but definitely don’t want her back in my life.

How do I tell her without hurting her?

Regards

C.T

Aunty S Responds:

Oh my dear what a sad old time you’ve had.

But you are back on your feet now with lovely new friends.

I totally agree with you, I wouldn’t be going back for seconds either!

Write her a short note stating that you hold no bitterness and wish her well for the future but you cannot see a way where a friendship with her could ever be rekindled.