Dear Aunty S

My partner wants us to marry and I don’t want too as we are happy the way we are.
I think she wants this because the kids would look cute as flower girls.
How do I make her realize we should carry on as usual?

Aunty S responds

Sometimes I feel just a wee bit too old for this world.
In my day you married first and then had the kids and now it seems men can have their cake and eat it too.
You have a de-facto wife and beautiful children and the fact she wants to legalize your marriage should be taken as a compliment because she loves you enough to want a commit to you.
Think it over.